1.3.2013
One thing that I wanted to talk about today is how important it is to continue learning and making solid attempts at being better than you were. I am vastly different today than I was in high school. I’m different today than I was in college or graduate school. The changes I’ve made between graduate school and now aren’t by the leaps and bounds that one would see between high school and now, but significant changes have been made in my beliefs, my confidence, my appearance, and my understanding of the world.
I think it is important, especially in a relationship sense, to be in a dynamic state of change. I have an aunt who didn’t really change much throughout her marriage. She kept her same hairstyle (a peppered afro) for years, dressed like she was still in the 1960s, while her husband seemed to change with the times (remain more contemporary). In the end, my uncle, ended up cheating on her. I’m not trying to say that she deserved to be cheated on, that would be victim blaming. But, I do have to acknowledge that part of a relationship is keeping the person interested. You can do that in many ways: finding new things to experience as a couple, finding ways to keep the attraction alive physically (in terms of physical appearance, sex, etc.).
This year I’m going to make a larger effort to get to the gym on a more consistent basis, learn more about Jazz, continue learning how to cook new things, try to eliminate candy from my list of “addictions,” and also make studying a larger priority so that I can perform well on the first board exam. It is interesting that a few people have asked me if I’m doing some of these things in order to attract women… Heh, I do it firstly for myself. I want more for myself, I want to be better, learn more, look better, etc. It’s not that I’m unhappy with the way I am, but there’s so much out there to learn and become. For example: Going to the gym is sort of like a game. When I see results I begin imagining what it would be like if I spent more time developing my physique. I could say the same thing about cooking. It’s a trial-and-error RPG. I’ve learned how to cook a variety of things over the past year and, as a result, have been eating healthier, and spending less money on eating out, than I had been previously. The same thing could be said of nearly anything. It’s all about exploration, and putting in the time to achieve the desired change.
Long story short/Too Long Didn’t Read (tldr) Version: I just want to be better and become who I’d like to be. In order to do that, some things have to change or improve. Attracting people is collateral or accessory to that main goal. It’s something that comes with the territory, I guess.
Stronger. Faster. Better.
One game that I have been playing is Dark Souls. I’m not sure if I would call it perfect, but it is a phenomenal game, not only because of its mechanics/game design, but because of the metaphors that can made between Dark Souls and life itself. (It’s also famously difficult.)
Dark Souls is an adventure RPG where players are questing to defeat hordes of enemies to make their way to the bosses. It sounds very straightforward, but it has some tweaks to it… most notably its system of leveling up and its system of co-op and PVP/AI invasion. In the game, as you defeat enemies, you gain currency called “souls.” Souls can be used to level up your character (thus making you stronger), buy items (such as armors, weapons, accessories, consumable items, etc.). How you decide to use the souls is completely up to you. However, there is a catch… if you happen to die in the game, which will happen a lot, you will drop all of your souls where you died. On top of this, all of the enemies you killed, sans bosses, are re-spawned… meaning you will have to kill your way back to your precious souls. If you die, your souls disappear. You lose them. All of that hard work goes up in smoke.
However, you can use an item to become human and summon someone to help you get your souls back or help you reach/beat a boss. However, becoming human allows other, real players to invade your game to kill you. Yes, transforming to ask for help is a double-edged sword in Dark Souls. When you’re invaded, you need to either kill your invader, rush to the boss (potentially unprepared or being killed by NPC enemies along the way), summon a friend in desperation to help you fight off the invader, or begin to pray that your invader gives up chase and banishes himself/herself from your game. Killing the invader nets you both souls and humanity (an item that you use to become human, heal, and do a variety of other things).
One of the things that I’ve noticed are some of the parallels between the real world and Dark Souls. One thing that I’ve noticed is the tendency of players to either help or kill. Many players seem to help other people (possibly because they receive a fraction of the souls from helping, because they remember how hard it was to beat a particular boss, or possibly because they had help to beat the boss in their game). If you help another player beat a boss, you gain both the souls from killing the boss, but also gain humanity from helping people.
Souls, Come Unto Me.
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